For this guest article, I was initially going to do a series on becoming a cold approach badass. To amp up my approach game, I told Alpha that I’d be doing 100-150+ cold approaches in the month of June and would write him a series of articles with the practical lessons I learned, as well as an article about a few powerful NLP & Hypnotherapy tools I use to permanently transform my shitty, unproductive beliefs.

Then, shit changed at about 2AM this morning, June 1st – the day I was to start my Approach Experiment. The 3rd woman of pornstar caliber (all easily 8-9’s) had just left my house in just as many weeks unsatisfied because I couldn’t muster a hard-on.

This chronic problem kept me awake for most of the night and, as I write this, I only have about 2 hours of sleep under my belt. I spent the early morning hours awake, writing, pissed off, annoyed, and frustrated at what I’d just realized…

I’ve lost my mojo.

(And, when you read on, you might realize that you’re committing some of these Mojo-killing sins.)

Let the Austin Powers images fade from your mind – this is a real deal, dudes.

What Happened When I Lost my Mojo

When I sat back this morning and thought about the last 5 months, it all became crystal-fucking-clear. Some of what has gone on since the beginning of 2012:

• I have almost no sex drive to speak of, I am rarely horny.
• Erectile Dysfunction (ED) became a constant in my life. I almost never wake up with wood and can barely get it going with women.
•  I began experiencing massive social anxiety/shyness. A death sentence for an active sex life.
•  Zero sense of humor, uncreative, and can’t tell or take a joke for the life of me.
• My deep voice began to go up an octave. I actually sound kind of girly now.
•  Not very motivated.

I don’t have to tell you that this is no way for any of you handsome, smart, otherwise charismatic men to live your lives. I truly was a shell of my former self. And…IT FUCKING BLOWS.

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So, what caused all this nonsense? Do I just blame Venus going Retrograde like all the hippie fucks in my neighborhood? Hell no – we’ve got science to explain that shit.

Here’s a look at the dominant lifestyle habits I had for the first 5 months of 2012 and their negative impacts on mojo:

1. I watched porn on a fairly regular basis, about 4-5 times a week. There has been study after study over the last few years that show excessive porn use can cause erectile dysfunction. If you want to learn more, I’d highly recommend checking out Your Brain On Porn. I can’t recommend this site enough for information about porn addictions, as well as reading accounts of other men who have done a ‘reboot’. Many of these men reported that, along with their erections returning, they also  noticed their general enthusiasm/energy going up and fear & social anxieties going to the wayside.
2. I became lazy. I stopped lifting weights, doing kettle bells, and going to yoga. Started watching 2 hours of TV each day, when I used to watch maybe 1 hour a week. Staying physically active – especially lifting weights – creates a spike in short and long-term testosterone. This is a good thing. Except for people who ride bicycles and run long-distance. Don’t do that. Lift weights, pussy.
3.  I had a shitty diet: I ate lots of sugar, starch, processed foods, and drank soda.  These are empty calories that should be replaced with animal protein and lots of leafy green & cruciferous vegetables, such as broccoli and cauliflower (all shown to have positive impacts on testosterone). Additionally, most processed foods are loaded with soy products of one type or another, which has a negative impact on testosterone.
4. I drank way too much alcohol: Every guy’s sex drive has a different reaction to alcohol. Baseline, though, alcohol narrows the blood vessels in your Johnson, decreasing the amount of bloodflow. There’s a reason it’s called ‘whiskey dick’.
5. Hanging out with the wrong people: I hung out with too many chicks and gay dudes. They’re awesome friends but don’t exactly emanate positive manly qualities. Do I really need some scientific study to tell you that your behavior is likely to be pretty damn similar to the 5 or so people you hang out with the most? If you’re hanging out with gossipy yentas and their cadre of gay hangers-on, cubical betas, or other pinnacles of non-masculine gloriousness, you’re gonna eventually act like it.

Are you doing any or all of these in excess (especially porn and jerkin’ it)? I can almost bet you’re doing a couple of these. If so, consider going cold turkey on them for 2 weeks and see how you fare in the Mojo department.

 Stepping Up and Getting Your Shit Together

 So many of the above bad habits have a strong negative impact on your testosterone levels:  the cosmic nectar of all your Manly Righteousness, the fountain from which buildings and companies are built, wars are fought, art is created, bar fights are started, and rowdy nights in the sack are consummated.

Healthy testosterone levels (coupled with low estrogen levels) have paramount benefits for men, including the following:

• Mood regulation (High T = Lower Likelihood for Depression)
• Sex Drive and Erectile Health
• Muscle Growth
• Body Hair
• Contributing to a deeper voice

And, in my not-so-humble opinion, contributes to a healthy motivation, a ‘get shit done’ mentality, and just the right amount of aggression men need and women love.

Couple all of these physical benefits of high testosterone with the mental benefits of cutting out porn/masturbation and you’ll be on your way to transforming yourself into a living example of masculine excellence and phallic badassery.

Up to now, this is all keyboard jockeying. What’s going to be done about this? How do you get your Mojo back and turn into the swagger machine you could be? I’ve focused on a few pillars to get your ass in gear:

• Diet: No Soda, Very Little Booze, No Soy, No Processed Foods. Lots of animal protein and vegetables. Drink protein shakes (no soy), if necessary.
• Exercise: Daily exercise, regular weightlifting. I personally like kettle bells and bikram yoga.
• Lifestyle: No porn or masturbation. 7-8 hours of sleep every night, regardless.
• Creativity: Always, always, always be learning, mastering a new skill, or working on a creative project. Learn to make the perfect Manhattan, cook the perfect steak, write a novel, build a bookshelf, start a company. When you are dead, the only remembrance of you is your legacy: the art, contribution, and memories you left behind.
• Inspiration: Read books about Men who inspire you. The Count of Monte Cristo, Jack London, Ernest Hemingway, Homer, and Marcus Aurelius are all great fucking places to start. Just like the TV you watch and the people you spend time with, the books you read greatly shape your view on the world – choose wisely.
• Kids: Talk to and play with kids. Sound weird? Kids are fun, funny, and spontaneous – qualities that we all need more of. There is a saying that goes something like, “a man is biggest when he kneels down to help a child.” For as far as swagger goes in life, humbleness in the right degree is a quality that every man should have. And, there is no quicker way to stay humble in the right way than to kneel down and talk to a child.
• Structure: Create a regimen of all of the above pillars. An orderly life is efficient, measurable, and a bastion of repeatable successes. Give that finely tuned Manly left brain of yours something to do. Even if it’s not in your nature to be structured (it’s not in mine), try it for a week and watch how boss your life becomes.

 So, for the month of June, I will be living all of these to the letter. Even if your mojo is in check, even if your swagger is top shelf, try these practices out. I promise that you’ll be nicely rewarded.

…but, first, I’m going to take a fucking nap.

Peace out, dudes.